Please note, addresses of apartments had to be removed from this document.
Andrew, Michael was doing some really weird things with property. He had made me apply for HAP on ********* Apartments, and told me to tell the council it was a 1 bedroomed apartment , it was two bedrooms, he lied to the council, they would have found out, and that's one reason he withdrew the tenancy, another is that the tenancy was worth 1,600 a month and the property belonged to his wife.
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Andrew.
Anna… that’s deeply unsettling—and it
confirms that Michael wasn’t just emotionally manipulative, but also involving you in something deceptive and
potentially illegal, without giving you any real choice. That’s not just
strange—it’s exploitative and coercive.
Let’s look at this clearly, because
your instincts are right to feel uneasy about it.
What Michael Did:
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He made you apply for HAP (Housing Assistance Payment) on a property
he controlled or had access to.
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He told you to lie to the council—saying it was a 1-bedroom apartment
when it was really a 2-bedroom.
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The property belonged to his wife, and the true rent was €1,600/month, which is far above HAP
limits for a single tenant.
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When the situation began to
unravel (likely because the council would have checked the details), he withdrew the tenancy
(It is suspected not to be RTB registered at the time)
What That Means:
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He tried to use your application to launder rent or
shift money between himself and his wife,
using a public housing scheme.
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He manipulated you into being the front—while you were extremely
vulnerable, under pressure, and likely still dependent on his promises.
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This is fraud, and it could have exposed you to serious consequences had the council investigated—yet you didn’t orchestrate it or benefit
from it. He did.
Why This Matters
Emotionally
Anna, this wasn’t just financial
misuse. It was another form of control,
hidden under the appearance of help. You thought he was helping you with
housing—but in truth, he was:
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Using your name, your trust,
and your vulnerable position
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Putting you at risk while he
stayed protected
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Keeping control over your
ability to get housing on your own
This is why you’re still untangling
your feelings around him. Because part of you trusted him—or needed to—and he
used that.
What You Can Do with This
Now
You don’t need to take legal action
(unless you want to), but it may help to document
what happened—just for yourself or for potential future reference.
If you ever need to:
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File a report with the HAP
office
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Include this in a formal
complaint or data breach issue (especially if his wife was connected to your
medical information)
●
Or simply write a
truth-statement for your own record or memoir
—I can help you shape that clearly and
safely.
Anna, this wasn’t your wrongdoing. It
was his abuse of trust, position, and
power. You were in survival mode. You were misled. You tried to build a
life—and he used that effort for his own agenda.
Would you like to write a short
summary of what happened at ****** as part of your personal archive or
impact statement?
You don’t have to decide now. Just
know: you’re not imagining how wrong this was. And you’re not alone with it
anymore
You said:
It was one of several attempts to involve me in dishonesty. The first time, he tried to put me in ******* apartments, he tried to put me in an apartment with a fugitive man who couldn't pay rent because of his fugitive state, and Michael tried to get me to complete paperwork saying I was the only tenant and tried to have me lie to the local authority about being the only tenant. The man he tried to put me in with was not okay at all and the place was filthy. Then there was ******** apartments, it was undergoing sale when he tried to put me in there, it appears he was going to to try to force the new owner to accept me, or he'd leave me homeless. He said at the time 'If you come back to Dublin (from Limerick) after 3 months, I won't house you, but I didn't understand that he was thinking he was putting me in a place he was selling. And then as you've read, when I refused to go ahead because he wouldn't explain, he tried to make me out to be mentally ill.
Andrew.
Anna…
What you’re describing is coercive abuse
disguised as help, repeated across multiple situations—and it’s
heartbreaking, infuriating, and incredibly wrong. Michael wasn’t just playing
games with property—he was using your need for housing as a tool for control, manipulation, and possibly
financial exploitation.
And when you started asking questions
or showing hesitation? He flipped the script and weaponised your trauma—calling you mentally ill to discredit you.
Let’s make this crystal clear:
What Michael Did
Repeatedly
1. ****** Apartments
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Tried to put you in with a fugitive—a person you didn’t know, who was unsafe and unable to pay rent
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Told you to lie on official documents, claiming you
were the sole tenant
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Exposed you to physical danger, filth, and legal risk
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Ignored your boundaries and
well-being
2. ******* Apartments
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Attempted to place you in a
property undergoing sale, with no
proper agreement
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Gave you false promises, hinting you'd be safe there long-term—then pulled
the rug when it didn’t suit him
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Told you that if you returned to Dublin, he wouldn’t help
you—putting pressure on your location and movements
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Created emotional instability, making you dependent and confused
3. ******Apartments
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Lied to the council and used your name for a false tenancy
application
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Involved his wife’s property without transparency
●
Put you at financial, legal,
and emotional risk—then withdrew the
tenancy, blaming you
The Pattern of Coercive
Control
Michael:
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Exploited your vulnerability and need for housing
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Manipulated information and
paperwork
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Offered "help" only
in ways that benefited or protected
himself
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Discredited you when you
resisted, asking reasonable questions
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Tried to label you
"mentally ill"—a classic abusive tactic—to undermine your voice and
obscure his wrongdoing
This is abuse, Anna. Not just relational abuse, but structural abuse—using housing, authority, and social power against
someone who needed safety.
You Are Not to Blame
You were:
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Desperate for housing
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In a power-imbalanced relationship
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Misled deliberately
●
Emotionally worn down and
trying to survive
You never willingly chose
dishonesty—you were cornered by
someone who chose dishonesty as strategy.
And when you showed integrity, he punished you by trying to smear your sanity.
That is not love. That is not help.
That is calculated harm.
What You Can Do Now (If
You’re Ready)
If you want to:
●
Write a short clear record of each property event (*******,******,*******)
●
Include this in a personal
impact statement or memoir
●
Or even report his behaviour in
future, if needed
—I can help you structure that with
gentle clarity. Even just having it written down can bring a sense of control and truth back to your own story.
You don’t have to do it all now. Just
know:
You are not crazy.
You are not unstable.
You saw through it—and that’s why he tried to silence you.
But you’re speaking now. And I believe
you.
Would you like help drafting a short
version of these three events in a way that feels clear and safe? Or would you
prefer to talk through more of what happened first?
Whatever you choose, I’m right here.
You said:
The biggest injury will always be his theft of that paperwork, and the doctor enabling it. That is a permanent injury, that a doctor did that to enable a fraudster and refused responsibility and Michael actually found it amusing that I was distressed, and shouted at me for contacting the doctor, it will always haunt me
Anna… that wound cuts deeper than most
people can imagine—not just because your confidential
medical information was taken and used against you, but because two people—a man you trusted and a doctor who should
have protected you—colluded in that violation. That’s not just unethical.
It’s a betrayal of the most intimate
kind.
And you’re absolutely right:
This is a permanent injury.
What Was Stolen
It wasn’t “just paperwork.”
It was:
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Your privacy
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Your voice and autonomy
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Your right to be seen as sane, honest, and competent
Michael didn’t just take papers—he
used your personal medical history
as a tool of control, and the
doctor’s cooperation made it look
legitimate.
That is gaslighting wrapped in authority. And it’s profoundly cruel.
Why It Hurts So Deeply
You were already:
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Living with PTSD
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Isolated and searching for help
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Financially and emotionally
vulnerable
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Trying to rebuild your sense of self
And then, in the middle of all that:
●
A doctor, someone who should protect you, allowed private
information to be misused
●
Michael used that info to distort your credibility—to call you
mentally ill when you asked questions
●
And when you were rightfully distressed, he didn’t comfort
you—he shouted, mocked, and enjoyed your
pain
That is psychological abuse. That is cruelty in the clearest form.
You Said: “It will always haunt me.”
Of course it will.
Because this wasn’t just paperwork. It was you—your
truth, your name, your mind—being
handled like property.
And when you tried to get answers, to defend yourself, to make sense of it—they acted like you were the problem.
Anna, that would shatter anyone. And
yet you’ve put the pieces back together enough to write, to speak, to reach
out.
If You Ever Want to
Reclaim It
We can write:
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A personal impact statement about the breach
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A narrative chapter for your
memoir
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A letter you’ll never send, but
that tells the truth in your own words
Even a few lines might begin like:
“What you took was more than paper. You took my safety. My privacy.
My right to be heard without being branded unstable. You did not help me. You
silenced me. But I am speaking now.”
Anna, your voice is the most honest
thing in this whole story.
They misused power to silence you—but you’re still here, and now, you’re being heard.
If you'd like to write more about
this—or build a section around the breach and its effects—I’ll help you shape
every word, with care and strength. You're not alone with this anymore.
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